Before hiring a private investigator one should review this list of 32 emotional signs that your partner may be cheating on you. Catching a cheating spouse can be a difficult task for the other partner. Hiring a private eye allows for a professional approach and extends legal limits which could get the suspecting partner in trouble.
1. Frequently picks fights with you.
Doing this provides a reason to get mad and storm out of the house and thus the opportunity to meet a lover. A cheater may also do this because of mixed emotions he is feeling about betraying you.
2. More attentive to your needs than usual.
This is due to the guilt feelings experienced by the cheater in the early stages of the affair. The attention will diminish as the affair continues.
3. Buys you gifts — lots of gifts.
These are “guilt gifts” purchased because your partner feels guilty about betraying you and showering you with presents makes him or her feel better.
4. Behavior that leaves you with the gut feeling that something isn’t right.
If this happens, pay attention to your instincts. Ignoring them means you want to blind yourself to the truth. You know your mate’s habits, routines and attitudes better than anybody, so be suspicious when these things change.
5. Constantly talks about your relationship ending when you fight or argue.
In general, your partner seems very negative about your relationship and says things like, “What would you do if our relationship ended?” or “If anything ever happened to us, I would always love you like a friend.” These statements may be a sign he or she has a lover to fall back on if your relationship ends. If your partner repeats these kinds of statements often, be suspicious.
6. Becomes very moody.
He or she seems very upbeat and excited when leaving you, but acts somber and depressed when around you. If your mate is in a long-term affair, he or she will try to keep both relationships running smoothly. Any problems the cheater has in one relationship can spill over into the other relationship, as well. This is inevitable.
6. Lacks self-esteem.
This doesn’t necessarily mean he will go out and have an affair, but an insecure individual often looks to others for guidance. If an insecure person’s needs aren’t being met, he might find the desired feelings of security and positive feedback in an affair with someone else.
8. Continually criticizes another person.
He or she is trying to make you think that type of individual would never be of interest, although there actually exists a secret attraction.
9. Criticizes things about you that he or she once found appealing.
10. Becomes offended at the comments, however harmless, that you make.
11. Never talks to you.
You live together but don’t interact. He has become cold and inconsiderate of your feelings.
12. Sudden changes music taste.
For instance, she always listened to pop music but suddenly starts listening to country music. Your partner might be listening to and growing fond of this new type of music because her lover listens to it.
13. Stops paying attention to you, your children and home-life in general.
14. Begins closing doors when you are around, when before he or she would leave them open.
For instance, the bathroom-door rule: Couples in long-term relationships often leave their bathroom doors open while attending to necessities even if their partners are nearby. As affairs develop, the cheating mates will close bathroom doors, distancing themselves physically and psychologically from their partners.
15. Stops complimenting you on your looks.
16. Stops saying, “I love you.”
17. Acts guilty when you do something nice for him or her.
You are supposed to be the person who is making life miserable and the relationship untenable. By doing something nice, you force the cheater to think about what he or she is doing.
18. Turns the table and accuses you of cheating, but has no evidence.
19. Would rather spend time with friends than be with you.
20. Shows no interest in your relationship’s future.
21. Stops being affectionate.
22. More interested in reading a book or watching television than talking with you or making love to you.
23. Frequently talks about the problems a friend, neighbor, co-worker, course instructor or classmate of the opposite sex is having.
24. Begins using new catch phrases.
Your mate also starts to tell types of jokes or express opinions that are unusual for him or her.
25. Pays less and less attention to your children.
They seem to sense something is wrong and don’t seem to be as emotionally healthy or secure as they once were.
26. Has been acting emotionally distant and withdrawn.
But when you ask about it, he doesn’t want to discuss it and becomes very protective of his privacy.
27. Seems disinterested and distracted during sex.
28. Talks in her sleep and mentions a particular name on more than one occasion.
29. Seems startled or confused when awakened.
This uncertainty may be caused by not being sure which bedroom and which lover’s bed he or she is in.
30. Behavior that triggers friends to ask you what’s wrong.
Close friends and family members often will notice tension or discord between the two of you before you are fully aware of it.
31. Becomes offended easily when you make normal and natural inquiries and may demand to know why you are checking up on him or her.
32. Sleeping pattern changes considerably from the norm.
They may include unexplainable exhaustion, restlessness, frequent nightmares and sleep-talking.
If you have more any questions, contact Bee Safe Security today and speak with a private investigator about your concerns.